Last Reunion and First River Cruise

 

We returned to Columbia in time for the May 2008 grand re-opening of the Missouri Theatre.  It had been closed during the $10 million renovation to return it to its original 1928 appearance.  Diane and I, along with our friend Craig, attended the gala which began with champagne and hors d'oeuvres served in the lobby.  The names of the contributors, including ours, were written in script on an upper portion of the lobby wall.  We were excited when it was time for the concert to begin and took our seats in the upper balcony to hear Tony Bennett.  Yes, THAT Tony Bennett, the one who sang "I Left My Heart in San Francisco!"  He was just a little older than the 80 years of the theater.  He only agreed to perform because he was so impressed with the renovation and the theater.  At one point he put down the microphone and spoke without amplification, confident that the acoustics were so good that everyone could hear him.  Even in the upper balcony we could hear his every word.  Following the concert, dessert was served and we were given a parting commemorative gift.

The gala begins

 

The start of the summer session of “Hot Summer Nights” with Kirk Trevor conducting the Missouri Symphony soon followed.  We again had season tickets and were glad we had only had to miss the event one year for the renovation.  Our seats were in the third row left of the lower balcony.  The first year we had season tickets, we had figured out that the two men sitting in front of us, Larry and Carl, were gay.  They were around our same age and we became fast friends, often dining out with them.  Diane began to prepare birthday dinners for them every year with their favorite dishes.

In June the Wichita High School East class of 1958 held its 50th reunion.  I had not been back to Wichita since my mother died, but decided to go with Diane so my classmates could learn about my life after high school.  There were over 1,000 in my graduating class, however, I was only around many of them in the required physical education classes.  My other classes were only attended by the college bound students.  Christine Cooper nee Hoidale had been my closest friend growing up and was cordial enough, but we were not close since the political disagreement we had at our house when she and her husband stopped by on their way to Indiana.  She did not seem to have a problem with Diane and I, but she had been incensed that we could still support Bill Clinton after he was impeached.  I enjoyed seeing Kelly Smith Tunney again.  She was the daughter of my father’s lawyer and went to Cottey College in Nevada, MO for two years before getting her journalism degree at KU and working for the Associated Press.  One of our good friends in Columbia and a member of Diane’s salon group had been President of Cottey College and remembered Kelly.  I think I would have enjoyed talking more with her.

Part of the 1,000 graduates in the class of 1958 (not much diversity)


Childhood friend Chris

 

Kelly Smith Tunney and me

 

Me standing in front of my father’s earlier floor covering store

 

I enjoyed the friendly greetings, although I did not feel any more comfortable around my classmates than I did when I was in high school.  It was at this reunion dinner dance that a male classmate who I had gone out on a date with at KU almost 50 years earlier approached and asked me: “Did you know at the time we went out that you were a lesbian?”   I thought he either was implying that I had gone out with him under false pretenses, or perhaps he had feared that his behavior was responsible for my becoming a lesbian.  Either way, I thought his question was out of line.  How could he be so insensitive?  I just said no.  After the reunion, I had no desire to ever return to Wichita.

Days before our next trip, Diane and I hosted the marriage of her quite pregnant niece Kelly to her high school sweetheart Steve.  Diane arranged for circuit court Judge Chris Kelly, a prominent public official in Columbia we knew well from Democratic politics, to come to our house and perform the ceremony.  Kelly’s parents, Sue and Joe were present and Steve’s mother was able to listen as the vows were spoken near our landline telephone receiver.  Diane served a lovely wedding cake along with some celebratory champagne.

Telephone, Steve, Judge Kelly, niece Kelly

 

Wedding cake and champagne

 

A few days later, we flew to Nice, France on the Mediterranean coast for more travel with Olivia. Although this would be our thirteenth trip with them, it would be our first riverboat cruise so we weren’t sure what to expect.  We arrived a day early to take a tour before meeting the Olivia team.  After we checked into our hotel, we explored the area.  We headed for Castle Hill, winding up a steep path to the top for great views.  It was Sunday, and there were a lot of people around, some with displays.  Not knowing French, I couldn’t be sure, but much of the activity seemed to be related to free speech, poverty, and so on.  After exploring the Castle grounds and gardens, we walked by a cemetery that looked inviting.  The tombs were highly elaborate, many having sculptures more often found in museums.  Diane was having fun all afternoon, taking pictures everywhere we went.  However, after so much walking, we were hungry and thirsty, so we headed for the Place Massena, a historic plaza where we could sit outside with a beer, sandwich and many opportunities for people watching.

View of beach in Nice from hotel window

 

Display on Castle Hill (by Communist Party?)

 

Playground on Castle Hill

 

Tombs in cemetery near Castle Hill

 

Me enjoying a beer

 

I had always admired the French explorer and conservationist Jacques Cousteau.  We chose our tour the next day because it included a visit to his museum.  Driving from Nice on the middle cliff road, our first stop was in Eze, a medieval village perched on a cliff overlooking the Mediterranean.  We walked up steps, and more steps, exploring crafts shops and the breathtaking panorama.  Then we proceeded to the old town of Monaco, and we toured the Prince’s Palace where Grace Kelly lived after marrying Prince Rainier III and then watched the changing of the guard.  Finally, we stopped at Cousteau's Oceanographic Museum where there were many interesting exhibits.  He was famous for inventing tools for underwater exploration.  I enjoyed the one about his inventions like the Aqua-Lung which enabled him to produce some of the first underwater documentaries.  The museum was not being maintained very well; many exhibits were dusty and dirty.  Jacques had died almost 10 years earlier, but his estate and the foundation fell into dispute among his survivors.  Perhaps the museum suffered as a result.  It was still worth the visit.   We made it back to Nice in time to return to the Plaza for some gelato.

Steps in Eze

 

Monaco changing of the guard at the Palace

 

Cousteau Museum Aqua-Lung display

 

Me enjoying gelato as much as cupid

 

The next day, we had a lazy morning, just walking down to the beach (not of sand, but of large pebbles called galets).  It didn’t bother the crowds sunbathing and swimming in the sea.  After lunch, we pulled our luggage to another hotel where we met the Olivia team in time to board the bus for our transfer to Arles and begin the Flavors of Burgundy and Provence tour on the Rhone River.

Arles is a coastal city popular with artists because of the southern light.  We visited the hospital where Van Gogh was a patient after he had his most violent episode, cutting off his ear.  Arles used to be closer to the Mediterranean, but centuries of silt carried down by the Rhone River filled in the harbor that once made it a major port.  It was an important Phoenician trading port, before it was taken over by the Romans and many historic remains survive.  With our group we toured the Roman arena.  It amazed us how these ancient, historic structures could be repurposed like this one, which was now used for bullfights.  A statue invited us inside to the Roman bathhouse.  Diane and I wanted even more history, so we walked to the very modern building that housed the Arles Archaeological Museum of ancient artifacts.  Because of the dryness with which history was taught in my junior high and high school, I avoided history classes in college.  However, I found learning history in THIS way much more interesting.  Diane loved history, principally early American.  She was also an Anglophile, having read all of Shakespeare while in high school, which led to a background in European history as well.

Hospital grounds were Van Gogh stayed

 

Roman arena

 

Roman bathhouse

 

Arles Archaeological Museum

 

Our boat, the ms Avalon Scenery, was designed to be able to lower any equipment on the upper level in order for it to squeeze under the many Roman stone bridges spanning the Rhone.  Our room was comfortable and we slept like babies.  Our first morning on the river, we had an unexpected treat.  The boat stopped at a dock at the bottom of a hill, we walked up to a small village, entered a church and were treated to an organ recital.  This was not on the schedule, but we loved it.  That night we were introduced to the normal routine.  When we stopped at a city, the boat tied up on the city side of the river.  During the day, we were given a guided tour of all the historic structures.  If we were spending the night, we could walk down the gangplank and go into the city on our own.

The first city we visited was Avignon where our group toured the Avignon Cathedral.  Diane and I enjoyed seeing the carrousel and touring the market place, viewing all the local fruits, vegetables, meats and cheeses.  With the proliferation of available produce, our meals were great; and traveling through a prominent wine region of France meant our wine each night was also very good.  So far, Diane and I liked touring by river boat.  As usual, each evening after dinner, we were entertained by an Olivia musician or comedian.

Avignon carrousel

 

Avignon fish market display

 

Avignon meat market display

 

Avignon produce display

  

As we left Avignon, we passed through one of the many sets of locks on the Rhone River.  The next day we cruised by vineyards and fields of lavender before stopping at Viviers, where we visited the Saint Vincent Cathedral and other historic sites.  The twin cities of Tournon-sur-Rhone and Tain-l'Hermitage were our first stop the next day, before spending the night at Vienne.   Vienne was a major center of the Roman Empire, so there were many ancient Roman structures to view as well as men playing bocce ball.

Locks at Avignon on the Rhone River

 

St Vincent Cathedral with Tower of St Michael to the right

 

Pipe organ inside St Vincent Cathedral 

 

Ancient Roman amphitheater in Vienne still in use

  

Men Playing bocce ball



Then we went to Lyon where on our guided tour we were fascinated by the wonderful buildings with trompe de l'oeil painting.  Motivated by our interest in history and WWII in particular, Diane and I spent the afternoon visiting the Lyon Resistance Museum.  We liked its slogan, “History, essential to the present,” and the fact that it had a separate exhibit for children.  Lyon played a key role in the liberation of France from the Nazis and thereafter became known as the “Capital of the Resistance.”

Building with trompe de l’oeil painting (not real balconies)


Lyon outdoor market

 

We spent Bastille Day touring the city of Macon and then stopped for the night at Tournus.  This area is popular with tourists and wine connoisseurs.  At dinner that night we were treated with a performance by the waiters who marched around twirling white napkins in remembrance of the white handkerchief (instead of a flag) raised above the Bastille (a royal fortress and prison) indicating surrender by the aristocracy and the beginning of the French revolution.  Diane and I jumped up at our seats and joined them in twirling our napkins.  There was a huge display of fireworks over the river that night, and on this, our last night aboard, we were outside on deck to enjoy it.  Diane and I decided that we did enjoy traveling on riverboats.  It was a way I could deal with visiting cities and a nice counterbalance to our nature trips.

Leaving the boat the next morning, we boarded a bus with a small group headed for the airport in Paris.  A train station was located in one of the terminals where we could buy our ticket and board the train to Brussels, Belgium.  Along the way, we had realized that we left our passports and money belts in the cabin safe on the boat.  This was something they even asked us to check before leaving.  Fortunately, we carried photocopies of our passports in our shoes and knew the hotel where we would be staying in Brussels.  One of the passengers on the bus was an Olivia staff member who loaned us enough money for our train ticket and called the ship to have the contents of the safe express mailed to the Marriott hotel in Brussels where we had reservations.  We felt really stupid and extremely lucky at the same time.  When we arrived at the hotel, they made copies of our passport papers and let us check in.  Whew!

We spent three-and-a-half days in Brussels, amazed that there were no turnstiles or charges for using the underground, which we took to and from the train station.  We spent most of our time walking, since our hotel was on the Grand Place, the central square of Brussels. We walked to the Royal Museum of Art where I particularly enjoyed the paintings of Pieter Bruegel as his portrayal of everyday people reminded me of the work by Missouri artists Thomas Hart Benton and George Caleb Bingham.  We discovered great chocolate shops and the freshest mussels in Brussels that went great with the local beer.

Grand Place Brussels

 

Pieter Bruegel painting

 

Chocolate shops



 

Mussels in Brussels


We had seen the movie In Bruges earlier in that year.  We really wanted to take the train for a day visit so we could climb up The Belfry like the hit man in the movie.  At 275 feet it is one of Bruges’s most touted landmarks and requires walking up a narrow two-way winding staircase to the top.  It reminded me of the narrow road up to Ravello, Italy.  On the way up, I was able to see the clock mechanism (resembling a player-piano roll) that controls the carillon with 47 silver-toned bells. We made it up the tower’s 366 stairs, and were pleasantly rewarded with a sweeping view of Bruges.  We took a boat trip on the Bruges canals and heard more about its history.

Belfry tower


 

Clock gears


 

Clock “player-piano” roll


 

We had loved the river cruise and visit to Brussels, but it was time to return to Columbia where we were happy to be reunited with our several “families” and friends.  We got back into our usual routine of four times a week starting our day at 8 a.m. with our Tai Chi class.  On Fridays, we had lunch with our Muleskinners Democratic family.  The classes for the fall semester of Osher were announced, and we looked forward to seeing our friends there.

I spent some time looking over my investments and decided that it was time to start simplifying my bond investments just like I had done with my stocks.  I purchased my last Missouri bond in August.  My philosophy with bonds had been to hold them for the interest payments, not sell or trade them.  As they matured or were called, I replaced them with other bonds.  After this final purchase, I no longer replaced them.  Instead, I would use Vanguard bond funds for that portion of my asset allocation.

In early September, we flew to Denver to spend a long weekend with Joe and Karen.  One day we hiked in the foothills and the next day we visited the Butterfly Pavilion and the Denver Art Museum.  Later in the month, we drove to Kansas City and had dinner with my former partner Ruth.  The next day we visited the National World War I Museum and Memorial, the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art and the Kemper Museum of Contemporary Art.

Overlooking Colorado mountains:  Karen, me and Joe


 

Sally Beth Lyon (the chief academic officer with the Columbia Public Schools) contacted me about joining a Math Advisory Committee.  I had hit it off with a Tai Chi classmate’s boyfriend, Bob, with whom I shared a mutual interest in math and computers, and asked him to join me on the committee.  Soon he was amazed that he had a lesbian for a good friend.  He joined me at the math committee meetings which started in September and continued for the rest of the school year as the committee evaluated new textbooks and materials.  While visiting a high school calculus class, I was impressed with the ability of the students to respond to questions posed by the teacher.  And to think that my high school had NOT offered calculus when I was there!  After my graduate school classes in math, I could not have answered some of the questions as well as these high school students.

October saw the biggest political rally ever in Columbia, Missouri.  It was a late Thursday night appearance by Senator Barack Obama before the November election, less than a week away.  About 40,000 college students, citizens of Columbia and surrounding counties attended.  All were transfixed by his campaign speech.  His big message was how important it was to vote.  He was right.  He lost Missouri by 0.1% of the vote, less than 4,000 votes.  Nationwide, the Obama/Biden ticket easily beat the McCain/Pallin ticket both in the electoral college and the popular vote.  Missouri did elect Democrats to the Governor’s office, two of the four state-wide executive level races, and four of the nine Representatives to the U.S. House.  Missouri Democrats were losing ground.  Thank goodness there was no Missouri U.S. Senate election in 2008.  The south and rural areas of the Midwest and West were solidly in the Republican column and Missouri was almost there.

Obama rally in front of the law school with press coverage


 

The rest of the year in Columbia was fairly calm and I was trying to get in that groove.  In 2008 my business was slow, but I was able to finish the computational work and a draft of my paper.  Nancy, my Statistics Department friend, and I were getting the written document into shape.  I did more volunteering for the Columbia Public Schools.  Diane and I enjoyed the many social and cultural activities that Columbia had to offer.